Real Change.
Less Time.
Online Coaching Worldwide
In Person in Roseville CA
50-minute sessions cost $300
Your first session is free
I don’t take insurance.
Our Story
Molly and I got married right before I started Air Force pilot training. The military lifestyle was hard on our marriage, and we started to fall out of love.
Our marriage suffered every time we moved. We wanted to build a loving home for yourfor our children, but we didn't know how. All we felt was anger, resentment, and hurt feelings.
We finally started therapy after my first deployment, but it didn’t help much. We worked with five therapists over five years, but nothing changed.
Therapist #6 saved our marriage. We made more progress in five sessions with her than we had in five years with other therapists.
Our new therapist used an approach called Crucible Therapy. It was nothing like the Gottman and EFT therapy we had done before.
Crucible Therapy changed our lives. I signed up for training as soon as I got my own therapy license.
How it Works
I do strength-based therapy. I won’t validate your victimhood, but I will help you find your own power.
I’m blunt and direct. You’ll never wonder what I really think.
I offer three-hour sessions and multi-day intensives.
If you don’t live in California, I provide online relationship coaching to clients all over the world.
Most couples see meaningful progress after 5-10 sessions. Complex cases take longer.
Your first session is free. If you’ve already tried therapy or coaching, expect this to be different.
Communication & Conflict — Every conversation turns into a battle. You're not fighting about money or the kids—you're fighting because something deeper is broken underneath.
How I can Help
Sex & Intimacy — One of you wants more. The other feels pressured, guilty, or just numb. This isn't just a libido problem — it's a reflection of what's happening between you emotionally, and it won't be fixed by scheduling date nights or trying harder.
Relationship Anxiety — Your worry about the relationship has become the relationship. You're scanning for signs, replaying conversations, seeking reassurance that never holds. The anxiety isn't just in your head — it's running through your entire couple system, and it takes a different kind of work to quiet it.
Threats of Divorce — Every fight ends the same way: someone says "maybe we should just get divorced." It's not a real decision — it's a weapon, or a panic button, or the only way one of you knows how to say "I'm drowning right now."
Roommate Syndrome — You live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, and feel completely alone. You're not in crisis — you're not even fighting. You're just... nothing.
Infidelity & Trust — Whether you discovered the affair or confessed it, you're cycling between rage, grief, and numbness—wondering if your marriage can survive this.
Narcissism — You’re never good enough. You've learned to monitor your tone, your words, even your facial expressions — because anything can be interpreted as criticism. The reality is more nuanced and more hopeful than the internet has led you to believe.
Codependency — You've lost track of where you end and your partner begins. Their mood is your mood. Their crisis is your crisis. What looks like love and devotion is actually something else — and understanding the difference is where real change starts.