A Different Kind of Couples Therapy
Online Coaching Worldwide
In-Person Therapy in Roseville CA
50-minute sessions cost $300
Your first session is free
I don’t take insurance
Our Story
Molly and I got married right before I started Air Force pilot training. The military lifestyle was hard on our marriage, and we started to fall out of love.
Our marriage suffered every time we moved. We wanted to build a loving home for our children, but we didn't know how. All we felt was anger, resentment, and hurt feelings.
We finally started therapy after my first deployment, but it didn’t help much. We worked with five therapists over five years, but nothing changed.
Therapist #6 saved our marriage. We made more progress in five sessions with her than we had in five years with other therapists.
Our new therapist used an approach called Crucible Therapy. It was nothing like the Gottman and EFT therapy we had done before.
Crucible Therapy changed our lives. I signed up for training as soon as I got my own therapy license.
How it Works
I do strength-based therapy. I won’t validate your victimhood, but I will help you claim your power.
I’m blunt and direct. You’ll never wonder what I really think.
I offer three-hour sessions and multi-day intensives.
If you don’t live in California, I provide online relationship coaching to clients all over the world.
Most couples see meaningful progress after 5-10 sessions. Complex cases take longer.
Your first session is free. If you’ve already tried therapy or coaching, expect this to be different.
Communication & ConflictEvery conversation turns into a fight. You are not really fighting about money or the kids.
Sex & IntimacyOne of you wants more. The other feels pressured, guilty, or numb.
Relationship AnxietyYou scan for signs and replay conversations. The reassurance never holds.
Threats of DivorceFights end with someone saying you should just get divorced. That is panic, not a decision.
Roommate SyndromeYou share a house and a bed, and you feel alone. You are not even fighting.
Infidelity & TrustAfter an affair, you move between rage, grief, and numbness.
NarcissismYou watch your tone and your face. Anything can sound like criticism.
CodependencyTheir mood becomes your mood. Their crisis becomes your crisis.
Ways to Work Together
- Couples therapy sessions in Roseville or by video
- Intensives: three hours a day for one to three days
- Private retreats for one couple at a time
- Premarital therapy
- Christian couples
- Online therapy anywhere in California
- Coaching outside California
Free Resources
- Book summaries of 33 books on relationships, grouped by topic
- Reading list: the books I recommend most
- Newest article: Where Narcissism Comes From, and How to Grow Out of It
- Newest podcast: 39. Alex Vs A-Rod
- Videos on narcissism, gaslighting, and growing up in your marriage
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