Therapy for
Codependent
Couples

How do you break free from codependency? By learning to love yourself first. By developing a strong sense of self that isn't dependent on your partner's approval. By setting boundaries and learning to tolerate the discomfort of disappointing others.

Next, we focus on differentiation. This means learning to hold onto yourself even when your partner is pressuring you to conform. It's about staying true to your values, opinions, and desires, even if they differ from your partner's. This takes courage, but it's essential for breaking the codependent cycle.

As each partner becomes more differentiated, they start to bring their whole selves to the relationship. They're no longer playing a role or suppressing parts of themselves to keep the peace. This can be scary at first, but it's also liberating. It allows for real intimacy, not just the illusion of connection.

The goal isn't to eliminate all dependency on each other. That's not realistic or even desirable. We all need love and support. The key is to depend on your partner without losing yourself in the process: to be interdependent, not codependent.

This work isn't easy. It requires facing your deepest fears and insecurities. It means risking conflict and even rejection in the short term. But the payoff is immense. When you learn to love yourself fully, you can love others more deeply too. You can have relationships based on choice, not compulsion.

If you're stuck in the codependent trap, know that freedom is possible. It starts with taking responsibility for yourself. With learning to tolerate the discomfort of autonomy. With believing that you are worthy of love, just as you are.

It's a journey, but it's one worth taking. And if you need a guide, I'm here to help.