Reading List

Already Free by Bruce Tift

I’ve read this book at least a dozen times. It taught me:

• The connection between physical distress and emotional distress

• How to feel peace in my marriage

• Why it’s normal to feel distress in marriage

• What it means to accept myself as I am

• How to be kind to myself

• How my childhood affects my marriage

Living at the Bottom of the Ocean by David Schnarch

This book taught me:

• Why my brain doesn’t work very well when I’m in conflict with my wife

• How to bring more calm energy into my home

• How to use written dialogues to heal my brain

• How to reprocess and heal childhood trauma

Living at the Bottom of the Ocean is offered as a free PDF download, get it here.

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch

This book taught me:

• How my anxiety affects my marriage

• How I was contributing to problems in my marriage

• How I have power to change my marriage unilaterally

• How to address sexual problems in marriage

• What it means to really care about someone

Intimacy and Desire by David Schnarch

This book taught me:

• How to work through sexual desire problems

• Why sexual desire problems are a normal

• How sexual desire problems can lead to personal growth

• How marriage drives personal growth

Brain Talk by David Schnarch

This book taught me:

• How to map someone’s mind

• What happens when you mask your mind from your partner

• How childhood trauma affects marriage

• Why we are so often blind to the worst parts of our parents