Roseville Couples Counseling
James Christensen LMFT
License # 142990
Your relationship needs help:
You want communication, but you get conflict.
You want connection, but you get anger.
You want affection, but you get apathy.
Things can be so much better:
You can have lifelong love
You can feel heard and understood
You can have connection and communication
Pricing:
$250 per session
First session is free
I don’t take insurance
Your First Session is Free
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Our Story
Molly and I welcomed our first child into our family a few months before I finished Air Force pilot training. We wanted to create a loving home for our children, but our marriage was getting crushed by the pressure of military life.
We started couples therapy when I returned from my first deployment. We worked with six therapists over seven years, but nothing changed in our marriage. We didn’t want to get divorced, and we didn’t want to spend another twenty years arguing and avoiding each other.
We finally started working with a Crucible Therapist trained by Dr. David Schnarch. This was the turning point in our relationship, the point where things finally started to get better. Our new therapist showed us how to fall in love all over again.
I started Crucible Therapy Training as soon as I got my therapy license. Now I help couples heal their relationships, just like our therapist helped us.
Dr. David Schnarch
What is Crucible Therapy?
Dr. David Schnarch (pictured here) created Crucible Therapy to help couples enjoy more connection, communication, and intimacy.
In Crucible Therapy, personal growth is the key to relationship improvement. You will learn to feel more safe and more connected in your relationship. You will also learn to communicate effectively, rebuild trust, and handle conflict in a collaborative way.
Crucible Therapy cuts straight to the root of relationship distress. We will immediately start addressing the underlying issues that stand between you and the relationship you want to have. Click here to learn more about Crucible Therapy.
Services
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Do you want more connection in your relationship? Do you want to feel like you’re on the same page again?
Couples therapy can help you feel more peace, more passion, and less stress in your relationship. Improve communication, stop arguing, and learn how to resolve conflict in a more effective way.
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Create a solid foundation for your marriage. Improve communication, resolve resentment, and learn skills that will help you build a lifetime of love and caring. Click here to learn more about premarital therapy
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“Love one another” is easier said than done. Come learn how to fill your home with Christlike love.
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Communication is the key to healing your relationship. Come learn how to have calm, collaborative conversations about even the most difficult topics.
Click here to learn more about Communication Therapy for Couples
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Sexual problems are present in most long-term relationships. The most common concern is a difference in sexual desire, where one partner cares more about sex than the other. I can help you use this difference in desire to create a deeper, more satisfying sexual relationship. Learn more
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The person you trusted most, the one you shared your life with, has betrayed you in the most intimate way. You feel foolish for not seeing the signs earlier. You’re questioning every moment of your relationship, wondering if any of it was real. You want to move forward, but you don’t even know where to start.
Emotional affairs can be just as damaging as physical affairs because they create a breach of trust and cause both partners t reconsider their commitment to the relationship.
If your relationship has been impacted by infidelity, click here to learn more about what you can do to make things better.
Questions & Answers
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Couples Therapy works by helping you exit the downward spiral of relationship degradation and move into an upward spiral of relationship improvement.
This is not about changing communication, it's about changing behavior, changing the way you feel about each other, and changing the way you treat each other.
My job as a therapist is to help you see what is going wrong in your relationship, help you understand the dynamics that are at work in your relationship, and help you make the changes you need to make to have a better relationship.
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Most couples start by attending six weekly sessions and then attend as needed after that. Some couples attend every other week or even once a month. Most of my clients use my online calendar to pick appointment times that work for them.
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I offer online therapy in California and relationship coaching worldwide. Most of my clients come to my office in Roseville.
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I'm more direct than most therapists. I think it's important for me to tell you exactly what you need to change if you want to make your relationship better. I also believe in getting straight to work. My goal is for you to have a better relationship after every session, including the first session.
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Almost all of my clients are couples. I believe that couples therapy is the best way to help people grow and become better at loving and caring for each other. I do sometimes offer individual therapy on a case-by-case basis.
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I don't take insurance. Some of my clients pay with an HSA card, and some of my clients submit receipts to get reimbursed by their medical insurance.
A Different Kind of Couples Therapy
I get right to work during the first session. There is no assessment phase, and I don't take extra sessions to meet with each of you individually.
Communication matters. Your first session will focus on learning a better way to handle relationship communication.
Manipulation and deception have no place in couples therapy. When this happens, I address it directly.
I focus only on the two or three most important issues in the relationship. We won’t waste time talking about things that don’t matter.
You will get about 10 minutes to complain about your partner. After that, I will help you focus on your own power to improve your relationship. Complaint and criticism has no place in couples therapy.
Love grows from a place of power, not a place of weakness. I will help you learn to feel powerful, safe, and secure in your relationship.
Anger, resentment, and frustration come from a place of weakness and powerlessness. I will help you learn to feel more powerful, less angry, less resentful, and less frustrated in your relationships.
I make it my personal mission to help you leave every single session with a better relationship than you had when the session started. I will work tirelessly to help you create the relationship you have always dreamed of.
I will tell you what I really think, even if there is a risk of you quitting therapy because of what I say.