Hope After Divorce

If you’re facing the possibility of divorce, you're likely to feel intense and confusing emotions, but it's important to remember these feelings are normal. You may experience sadness, anger, and fear, and might even feel hatred for your spouse. But it's important to remember lots of people face these challenges, and they're part of the natural process of divorce.

Your relationship might have reached critical mass, a turning point where you must change to survive. Critical mass is an opportunity to grow and develop a stronger connection, not a sign that your marriage is over. It may feel like the end of the world, but it's really just the end of the familiar way your marriage has functioned. You can use this opportunity to address unresolved issues and move to a new level of intimacy.

Here are some things I can help you with as your therapist:

• I can teach you about differentiation, which is the ability to be yourself while staying connected to your partner. This can help you decrease the pressure and tension in your relationship. Differentiation means you don't depend on your spouse for your sense of self-worth. You learn to manage your own anxiety and soothe yourself without relying on your partner.

• I can help you have a more realistic picture of yourself and your relationship. This can help you make better decisions about your future, whether you stay together or divorce.

• I can guide you through the difficult conversations that need to happen during divorce. This can help you and your partner communicate more effectively and reduce conflict.

• I can help you grieve the loss of your marriage. This can help you move on and create a new life for yourself.

Divorce is not a failure. It can be a chance to start a new chapter in your life. By focusing on your own healing and growth, you can come out of this experience stronger and more resilient.