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Hi, I'm James. If you found me through one of my videos, welcome.

I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist in Roseville, California (LMFT #142990). I opened Roseville Couples Counseling in 2023, and since then I've worked with over 400 couples, in my office and online around the world.

Everything on this site is free to read and watch. You don't have to be my client to use it. Here's where I'd start.

Watch my story

There are more on the videos page, mostly Catherine Roebuck and me talking through real sessions from the show Couples Therapy.

Read these first

• What is differentiation? The idea behind Crucible Therapy, the approach that helped save my marriage: holding onto yourself while staying close to the person you love.
• Divorce statistics every couple should know. About 40% of today's first marriages are expected to end in divorce, not half. What the numbers say and where they're shaky.
• How common is cheating in marriage? What the research says about who cheats, why, and whether marriages recover.
• Book summaries. Summaries of books on relationships by David Schnarch, Terry Real, John Gottman and others.

What are you dealing with?

If something in your relationship hurts right now, start with the page that fits.

• Fighting and communication
• Sex and desire
• Relationship anxiety
• Infidelity and trust
• Narcissism
• Codependency
• Feeling like roommates
• Threats of divorce

Work with me

Your first session is free, whichever way we meet:

• In person at my office in Roseville
• By video, anywhere in California
• For online coaching, anywhere in the world