Adlerian Couples Therapy Triangles

I use two Adlerian Couples Therapy Triangles when I’m working with couples.

The first one has three sides:

• that pad person

• poor me

• what will I do now

The second one has two sides, the third side is blank:

• your impact on me

• my impact on you

This gives me a physical object that I can hand to a client to help them pause and think about how they're using their time in therapy. Are they focused on talking about things they can't control, or are they focused on talking about things that they actually have power over?

The three questions above are the tool. A client can use them to notice whether the session is spent on something they can actually change.